A friend of mine said this to me the other day: "Marriage is like the
military: there's the General and the Major. Depending on who and how
your significant other is, you will assume either rank. I thought I was
well and good out of the QC (Queen Control) situation since I get to
assume the role of the General and my wife as the Major in my
household. But it ended up that she has the final say over everything
anyway 'cos she will claim that everything within the household is a
matter of major importance and none of it is general
in nature."